I am officially back from maternity leave. I would like to thank everyone for all of the kind words and the baby shower for my daughter Ella Mae. I feel so blessed to be a part of the Boulder family. Everyone is so wonderful and I am excited to be back to work.
November was a busy month with Thanksgiving. I can’t believe it’s December, Christmas and New Year’s are right around the corner. We look forward to having carolers come visit, the Lyon County Museum come, Leo from YMCA comes twice a week for exercise, Cowboy Jim will be visiting us, and many other fun daily activities.
We welcome visitors and volunteers every day. Every Sunday from 2:30 p.m.-4:30 p.m., we will have fam-ily time to visit and play games with residents. On the 2nd Wednesday of the month at 10:45 a.m., we will have Catholic Mass please feel free to join us.
If you would like more information on the building, volunteering or a tour of Boulder Creek, please contact Jamie at 507-929-1234 or [email protected].
Holidays and Alzheimer’s Families Familiarize others with the situation
The holidays are full of emotions, so it can help to let guests know what to expect before they arrive. If the person is in the early stages of Alzheimer’s, relatives and friends might not notice any changes. But the per-son with dementia may have trouble following conversation or tend to repeat him- or herself. Family can help with communication by being patient, not interrupting or correcting, and giving the person time to fin-ish his or her thoughts.
If the person is in the middle or late stages of Alzheimer’s, there may be significant changes in cognitive abilities since the last time an out-of-town friend or relative has visited. These changes can be hard to ac-cept. Make sure visitors understand that changes in behavior and memory are caused by the disease and not the person.
You may find this easier to share changes in a letter or email that can be sent to multiple recipients. Here are some examples:
- “I’m writing to let you know how things are going at our house. While we’re looking forward to your visit, we thought it might be helpful if you understood our current situation before you arrive.
- You may notice that ___ has changed since you last saw him/her. Among the changes you may no-tice are ___.
- “Please understand that ___ may not remember who you are and may confuse you with someone else. Please don’t feel offended by this. He/she appreciates your being with us and so do I.”
For more ideas on how to let others know about changes in your loved one, join ALZConnected, our online support community where caregivers like you share tips on what has worked for them.
Adjust expectations
- Call a meeting to discuss upcoming plans. The stress of caregiving responsibilities layered with holiday traditions can take a toll. Invite fam-ily and friends to a face-to-face meeting, or if geography is an obstacle, set up a telephone confer-ence call. Make sure everyone understands your caregiving situation and has realistic expectations about what you can do. Be honest about any limitations or needs, such as keeping a daily routine.
- Be good to yourself. Give yourself permission to do only what you can reasonably manage. If you’ve always invited 15 to 20 people to your home, consider paring it down to a few guests for a simple meal. Let others contribute. Have a potluck dinner or ask them to host at their home. You also may want to consider breaking large gatherings up into smaller visits of two or three people at a time to keep the person with Alzheimer’s and yourself from getting overtired.
- Do a variation on a theme. If evening confusion and agitation are a problem, consider changing a holiday dinner into a holiday lunch or brunch. If you do keep the celebration at night, keep the room well-lit and try to avoid any known triggers.
Involve the person with dementia
- Build on past traditions and memories. Focus on activities that are meaningful to the person with dementia. Your family member may find comfort in singing old holiday songs or looking through old photo albums.
- Involve the person in holiday preparation. As the person’s abilities allow, invite him or her to help you prepare food, wrap packages, help decorate or set the table. This could be as simple as having the person measure an ingredient or hand decorations to you as you put them up. (Be careful with decoration choices. Blinking lights may confuse or scare a person with dementia, and decorations that look like food could be mis-taken as edible.)
- Maintain a normal routine. Sticking to the person’s normal routine will help keep the holidays from becoming disruptive or confusing. Plan time for breaks and rest.
When the person lives in a care facility: A holiday is still a holiday whether it is celebrated at home or at a care facility. Here are some ways to celebrate together:
- Consider joining your loved one in any facility-planned holiday activities
- Bring a favorite holiday food to share
- Sing holiday songs and ask if other residents can join in
- Read a favorite holiday story or poem out loud
Have a wonderful December and Merry Christmas,
Jamie Lanners, Boulder Creek Housing Manager
Reference: Alzheimer’s Association (2014). “Holidays and Alzheimer’s families.” Retrieved from: http://www.alz.org/care/alzheimers-dementia-holidays.asp
